The crew, Jess, Joe, Vickey, Lucy, Stefan, Cooper
The first days on a new boat with a new crew is always a bit strange before everybody finds their place and their way around the boat. It can be frustrating both for owners and crew when everybody has to ask about everyting all the time. Where do I find pots, where are the tea towels, is it ok if I go to foredeck under way, can I set up a fishing rod, where do we play music, where can I charge my computer, etc. etc. Joe and Vickey do a great job in guiding us to everything and I am sure that in a few days Boysterous will feel like home to all of us.
I find it very interesting to see how crews develop and take form from not knowing each other until being a well functioning team. From my previous experience I would say it takes about 1-2 weeks before this happens. The basic team, of course longer to become a top performing team. I heard many theories about forming teams, but Lucy just told me one her mum uses; Forming – Norming – Storming – Performing. This corresponds very well to what I have seen before. We are very much still in the forming phase, finding our places and our inbound relations. All are still very nice and easy going and it feels ok so far.
We are an interesting crew in many ways, very different not only in nationalities but also in gender, age and professions. We range from 27 to 68 years old, more or less one person born per decade from 1940-1990. Three men and three women working within the fields of finance, medicin, teaching, marketing, science and yachting. Joe, Vickey and Coop retired from working, while the rest of us are working just none of us right now.
Our sailing experience differes a lot too. I am the only one who crossed an ocean before but Lucy, Coop, Vickey and Joe has done more sailing over a long period of time. Lucy has all the qualifications up to yachtmaster offshore. She has been working within the superyacht industry as a deck hand and knows amazingly much about many apects of yachting, both theoretically and practically. It is fun to learn from her and to see someone like her, with the future ahead, full of confidence, percieving herself as invincieble and despite her youth not afraid to speak her opinion or teach us show to do things. And she does it very well. I must admit I suddenly do feel slightly old…
When it comes to forming the team I am probably the one being the outsider. A situation uncommon for me. Joe and Vickey of course forms a natural unit owning the boat and being married for 30 years. Coop is their friend since many many years and they have many family holidays of sailing together.
Stefan and Lucy found each other very fast and quickly formed a strong two-some. Similar interests, close in age and life experience made it easy I guess. Plus I believe they genuinly came to like each other from the start. Of course they take part in all tasks and activities on the boat as part of the whole crew, but as soon as there is some slack time the two of them can be found chatting on the bow, smoking in the aft, listening to music in the cockpit or watching a movie in the saloon. If you find one you can be sure to find the other not far away. I think they might even fall in love!! Haha! Sweet!
On my last yacht, although widly separated in age, we shared a lot of life experiences. We had many really interesting talks about life in the bigger picture, sharing lots of personal stories, challanges and fears as well as wishes and beliefs on a deeper level. Everybody very open and interested in the art of discussions with mutual curiousity, respect and understanding. So far on Boysterous this has not been the case so much. We are on a much more shallow level. Perhaps that will change with time and growing relations. But I don´t really believe so. I don´t believe Joe and Coop are prepared to share their personal thoughts and feelings. Perhaps because they belong to a male more conservative generation. I may be wrong.
The ”youngsters” on the other hand, well they are not that young, 27 and 34, but from my perspective they behave rather immature some times. For instance when it comes to chatting. More interested in talking about themselves than asking questions about others. It truly fascinates me that I can ask 10 questions, and not once (ok maybe once in 10, should not be unfair) they ask about my experiences or thoughts about the different subjects. To me that just doesn´t make up to an interesting discussion in the long run. And looking back on the things I have done, the adventures I had, the places I have seen I only feel extremely lucky and am so glad I have a bigger interest in listening and discussing with others than talking one-sidedly about myself and my experiences.
We will see. Maybe it will change along the way. Again, I feel old, but this time in a very good way. 🙂